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Some Thoughts on 21 Days of Decluttering

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Over the past few weeks, I’ve been blogging about my Declutter 10 project. Every day, I send ten items to the trash or donation pile. I wanted to see just how many days I could declutter.

21. I made it 21 days!

That’s 210 items that I either trashed (random bits of velcro, broken toys, disintegrating shoes) or donated (books, toys in good condition, clothes my kids had outgrown). And actually, the number is quite higher because I often exceeded the daily quota.

Yesterday would have been Day 22 of the Declutter 10 Project, but I took a Spa Morning. Then I took Pippa out to sell Girl Scout cookies at a booth with her troop. Then I went home and snuggled Julian. I completely forgot about decluttering until 9:10 p.m. For a panicked moment, I considered finding 10 books to donate to Goodwill but I realized the Declutter 10 Project had accomplished its original project. I started the project because I was feeling utterly hopeless about every getting a handle on our cluttered home. After 21 days of decluttering, I am out of that rut and confident that I will conquer our mess even if I miss an occasional day of decluttering.

I have a long way to go on my decluttering journey, but we are already reaping the benefits from my work. Our kitchen table, which is also our art and homework table, has been cleared. The excess art supplies are back in their designated spots. The table is now empty except for the crayons, a small bowl with a few essential crafting supplies (glue, tape, pencil sharpeners), and some paper. There’s also Pippa’s “sight word box” (because if I put it away, I forget we need to practice) and a book that I read during odd moments. This sounds like a lot, but it’s a big table, and everything is tidily organized in the middle no man’s land that would otherwise be empty. (Or, I suppose, be decorated with flowers and candle sticks if I was living a different sort of life.)

This morning, the freshly cleared kitchen table got lots of action. I had space to eat my scrambled eggs and read a book. Nathan and Pippa had space to play a board game. And then, when Pippa wanted to make collages, we had space for magazines, ink pads and stamps. Right now, the table is tidied up and waiting for the next meal, game or art project. We have space to live our lives!

My goal is to finish decluttering our home by the end of spring. Sooner would be nicer, but I’m learning a lot from the process. (Today, as I was decluttering books, I started thinking about mortality. But that’s another blog post!)

In the meantime, I intend to keep decluttering as much as I can every day to maintain my momentum. And I cannot wait for a sunny forecast! I have a lot of big ticket items that need to go to the curb, but since it has been rainy every few days, I have to be patient and wait.

Declutter 10: Days 11-15

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It continues to astonish me just how much STUFF we have. One of these days, I may crack and purge 100 things at once; but I do think the Declutter 10 pace is working well for me. Maybe the Declutter 10 is helping me build towards a bigger day? But in the meantime, here’s what I decluttered:

Day 11: I attacked the children’s collection of activity books. We have amassed quite the collection. I decided to get rid of 19 workbooks, sticker books, and coloring books. Some of these were mostly used up and went to the trash. The rest were still in good condition. They just did not capture my kids’ imagination, so I passed them on to our babysitter.

Day 12: Ten books from my collection. Some I had read. Some I have never read and honestly, will probably never read, and their presence was making me feel guilty. Off to Goodwill!

Day 13: I turned my sights on the fridge door. I have a magnetized clipboard that keeps me organized with daily laminated checklists, but the clipboard was getting cluttered with school flyers. I purged the old flyers. Then I got rid of expired coupons and old artwork that was lurking all over the fridge plus several magnets that had arrived in the mail from plumbers and realtors. In all, I probably tossed 15 things. The fridge is the sort of household zone that will require regular decluttering. I can already tell that when I have finished the Declutter 10 Project, I will need to enter a Maintenance Phase and regularly attack the parts of our house that are clutter magnets.

Day 14: Bit of a hodge podge day.

  • One random yellow shoelace – trash!
  • Two old pieces of cardboard that were part of the packaging for hair bands. Pippa was organizing the hair drawer so I saw an opportunity to create more space.
  • A random blue circle made from a flexible sticky material, purpose unknown, origin unknown, found in hair drawer.
  • A half piece of Velcro in the hair drawer?? Decluttering is hilarious.
  • And then, I did not expect this to happen, but Pippa agreed to give away NINE stuffed animals. I asked Pippa if there were any stuffed animals that were maybe a bit babyish. This made her look at her enormous collection a bit differently and she got excited to thin the herd. I felt a little emotional when she picked a stuffed blue and yellow monkey that Nathan bought when I was pregnant with her, but Nathan pointed out that the monkey was falling apart and he did not mind if Pippa sent it to the trash. When I put the stuffed animal in the trash bin, I felt a big surge of relief.

Day 15: Ten picture books that are either babyish or just not part of our regular rotation. I have a feeling that I’m going to be getting rid of at least a few (dozen) more picture books!

Declutter 10: Days 6-10

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Incredible. I’ve been doing this project for ten days, which means I have decluttered ONE HUNDRED different things, and still, I have a loooong way to go. At least, it feels that way. Maybe I’ll declutter for another week and discover I’m done. Sometimes I overestimate how long a job is going to take me to finish. But looking around my house, and garage, and basement, I have a feeling this project will carry me through February. At least.

But I don’t feel demoralized. On the contrary. I feel motivated! I’m making progress and building momentum. Instead of feeling as if I’ll never make a dent in all our clutter, I know I can reclaim our home, day by day, ten items at a time.

I really appreciate all the things I learned from Marie Kondo’s book (I still haven’t watched her Netflix show), but in a backwards way, her book paralyzed me. She recommended decluttering all at once. I took this suggestion too seriously. Since I couldn’t find an entire weekend to declutter my entire home, I just didn’t declutter.

So the clutter grew and grew and grew, but with a kindergartener and preschooler, I never have the time to declutter the entire house in one go. I could declutter a closet while Julian is at preschool, but then I wouldn’t have the time to exercise and write, and I really need to exercise and write to feel like myself.

I forgot my personal rule when it comes to self-help books: self-help books can inspire me, but no book gets to dictate how I live my life. I take what works for me and leave the rest, because I’m the only person who understands my life, my experiences and my circumstances. Not even the most inspired guru in the history of humanity can predict what will work for me. I have to figure that out for myself.

So that’s what I’m doing now with my Declutter 10 Project. Figuring out what works for me during this current stage of my life. And without further ado, here is what I have purged from the Novak household:

Day 6 of Decluttering:

  • An Elastigirl costume that Pippa convinced me to buy for Halloween. I fully intended to wear it but then Julian lost his shit when he saw mama getting into a costume. He thought I was going to stop being mama! It’s a plus size costume and I don’t intend to be a plus size come Halloween 2019. By sending the plus size costume to Goodwill, I’m giving myself a major vote of confidence. (I guess I could still wear the costume now, but I don’t make a habit of dressing up as a Disney super hero while running errands.)
  • A bunch of clothes that Julian outgrew: two tank tops; nine t-shirts; two pairs of shorts; and one pair of black leggings. This put me over the Declutter 10 daily quota but since I was hunting through Julian’s chest of drawers, it was easier to just finish going through the drawers in one go. I created the Declutter 10 Project to help me declutter. I’m certainly not going to adhere to its “rules” religiously if that sort of zealotry would undermine my decluttering efforts.

Day 7 of Decluttering:

  • A poncho that I bought a few years again because I thought it would help me take walks in the rain. It didn’t. The hood dripped water in my arms and the arms were awkward so I couldn’t listen to my iPhone. Still, I kept the damn thing because maybe I would use it eventually. Well, it has been raining A LOT in Pasadena and I have not felt the slightest inclination to use my poncho. I’d rather use an umbrella and wear my fleece. I think it’s safe to say that it’s time to let someone else have a crack at my poncho.
  • Two girl-sized belts, one brown and one white. Pippa begged me for a 3-pack of belts that she spotted at Target when we were shopping for her kindergarten school clothes. She really just wanted the pink belt. Pippa herself told me I could give the other two belts away. Proud mama!
  • Guess Who, the board game. This game is one of my favorites, but we could not get the new 2018 version to work. The cards would not fit in the damn slots. But I kept it? Because I thought the board game fairies would come and fix it?
  • A dress up wedding gown that Pippa never wears because she thinks its itchy.
  • A too-small Julian sweatshirt.
  • Some of Pippa’s old clothes: a summer dress, rain boots, an Easter dress, a pink tutu, and a purple sundress. Sometimes, I hold on to these things not because I think my kids will shrink and fit into them again, but because I want to give them to my brother’s daughters. Except whenever they visit, I forget to bring out the old clothes. So then the stockpile grows. And my guilt over the clutter. So fuck it. The clothes can go to Goodwill.
  • The pumpkin costume my children both wore for their first and second Halloweens. I love that pumpkin costume, and I smile whenever I see photos of my babies dressed up like a pumpkin. But I don’t need the costume as some keepsake taking up space in the back of a closet. The photos are enough.

Day 8 of Decluttering – A bunch of stuff that my mom convinced me to take a couple of months ago when she was decluttering. She thought my kids would like the old clothes for dress up. But my kids actually like to play dress-up with costumes that are their size. Or, if they want to try grownup clothes, they raid the master bedroom closet and try the clothes that mom and dad wear in real life. But I kept the hand-offs from my mom for a couple of months because what if my kids changed their minds and suddenly wanted a hoard of old adult clothes for dress up? Well, I don’t want to live with that sort of fear mentality. I live in a major city. If my kids suddenly adopt new dress up habits, I can raid a thrift store and get tons of clothes for cheap. In the meantime, I don’t need to trip over a trash bag of rejected clothes every time I get Julian’s pajamas. I let these specific items go:

  • a dress I wore in the 6th grade to an aunt’s wedding
  • another fancy dress that I wore as a kid
  • an embroidered shawl
  • several fancy dresses that belonged to my sister
  • a random belt
  • someone’s childhood plaid dress
  • my high school graduation dress (it’s white and shiny and I vaguely remember keeping it in case I wanted to dye it someday for a Halloween party. I haven’t dyed it in 22 years. Yeah. It’s never getting dyed.)

Day 9 of Decluttering:

  • Two little Halloween ghosts that get bigger when you put them in water. We put the tiny ghosts in water. And they did indeed get bigger. And then they just floated around in a glass on the counter for two months because the texture was slimy and gross and what else could we do with them? Oh, hey, I know: let’s put them in the trash because Halloween is over.
  • A Hello Kitty clock that makes an annoying ticking sound. I asked Pippa if she wants it in her room. She looked at me like I’m crazy.
  • A shoe box. Because I keep shoe boxes in case I need them for storage. But I have little people. And my little people are constantly growing. They need new shoes YESTERDAY TODAY AND EVERY TOMORROW. I don’t need to hoard shoe boxes. There’s always a new one coming into the house.
  • An empty plastic container that came with baby wipes. Again, I kept it because it could be used for storage. But it wasn’t. Hello, recycling bin!
  • An old Tupperware piece. See prior two items.
  • An orange metal flower pot that came with a grocery store plant. I liked the plant but never liked the pot. Why do I punish myself by keeping these things?
  • Some of Pippa’s old camp craft projects from last summer, like a corn husk doll. She’ll be back at camp again this summer, doing all the art projects she can. I can’t keep every project she keeps. Or we’d be buried alive.
  • Stale Halloween candy.
  • And about twenty little Halloween knick knacks like pencils and erasers and stickers which we will count as the final two entries for the Declutter 10. Because it’s my project, so I get to make these sort of declarations.

Day 10 of Decluttering (whew, I highly doubt anyone is reading this, but I enjoy writing it so there you go):

  • A bunch of Ralph’s receipts on the fridge. We have to submit $3000 of script to Julian’s preschool. (And if you don’t know what script is, consider yourself blessed.) We satisfy this obligation with receipts from our grocery store. But woot woot, we have hit the mark already! So we can stop sticking the receipts beneath a fridge magnet.
  • A bag of clothes that I packed up before I started this project but then left on the bedroom floor because that’s so helpful. I moved it to the official Goodwill/babysitter pile. (The babysitter gets first crack and then I take the rest to Goodwill.)
  • Several pounds of old, dried up play dough. We made a new batch of homemade play dough and the old stuff was getting rank. (By “getting rank,” I mean that there is probably a chemical warfare unit that would be interested in the stuff.)
  • All sorts of play dough tools (at least 15) that the kids never use. This put me over the Declutter 10 goal, but since Julian was busy with our fresh batch of play dough, I was happy to clean out our play dough bin.

This is such an adventure. I’m losing weight and losing clutter in the house. The two projects definitely feel related. Maybe emotionally?

Declutter 10: Day 5

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Yesterday was my fifth day in a row of decluttering – woot woot! And I finally had the emotional courage to purge some stuffed animals.

My kids have piles and piles of stuffed animals. Julian’s collection is actually acceptable. Pippa’s is insane.

I have thinned the herd several times. People just love to give my daughter stuffed animals. I do my best to keep the expensive ones. And the ones from grandparents. But holy crap, if I kept all the stuffed animals, we’d need a dedicated Stuffed Animal Room.

A few months ago, when I was feeling desperate, I stuffed about a dozen stuffed animals in a trash bag and hid the trash bag in a closet. I chose stuffed animals that Pippa never seemed to snuggle or cuddle. Then, I waited. If she noticed that a Hello Kitty stuffy was missing, I would have liberated it from the closet (and welcomed the hero’s parade.) But she did not complain that her stuffed animals were missing. She has so many, she did not notice the sudden absence of a dozen.

So yesterday, I asked my babysitter in hushed whispers if she wanted the stuffed animals. She did. I showed her the stuffed animals in the closet while the kids were playing on the other side of the house. We both felt like we were playing with fire. Then, while the kids were at school, the babysitter transferred them to the car.

I don’t have a list of the exact stuffed animals because this was a very furtive, top secret, highly dangerous mission. If Pippa had seen what I was doing … but she didn’t. I know we gave up a Minnie Mouse (she still has several Minnies) and the aforementioned Hello Kitty (she still has at least eight freaking Hello Kitties). But I feel relieved to have cleared some more clutter out of my house. It’s as if there is more air to breathe.

Now I just have to resist the urge to buy the kids more stuffed animals for Valentine’s Day! Agh, so many cute options at stores but they don’t need any more shit. I will leave stuffed animal purchases to the grandparents.

Declutter 10: Days 3 and 4

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I’m seeing some themes emerging as I continue with my decluttering project. The first object is never that hard to pick, but objects 2-5ish feel tough. I find myself wandering, staring at shelves, not quite certain where to start. Items 6-10 are much easier. I guess I’ve entered the decluttering zone by that point?

Ten items feels right for me. I can find the time to declutter ten items. After I have decluttered 10 items, I always start to notice things for the next day’s session. I like this. I like being able to say “I’ve done enough today, and I know where I’m starting tomorrow.”

So here are the objects that are leaving the Novak household!

Day 3:

  • One ball pit ball. I tried to create a ball pit in a cardboard box when Pippa was little. But did you know ball pits require hundreds and hundreds of balls to have any sort of satisfying depth? I got rid of the ball pit balls ages ago, but I keep finding survivors stashed in random spots of the house. Hopefully this one was the last? (Highly unlikely.)
  • Two little suction toys that just never amused my kids the way I hoped they would.
  • Old Mr. Potato Head pieces. I bought Mr. Potato Head thinking my kids would love him as much as I did. Nope. They are happy to encounter him occasionally at preschool. So I gave Mr. Potato Head away ages ago, but as with the ball pit, I keep finding odd pieces.
  • Old tinkertoy pieces. Again with the toys I thought would amuse my kids for hours but alas, they were not interested. Though I think the current Tinkertoys are not as fun as the ones they made when I was a kid.
  • Old piece from a toy I gave away. This was a wooden bear head. Not at all creepy to just find a random wooden bear head amongst your children’s toys.
  • Old toy mirror from a toddler purse set. Pippa got like three of these purses the year she was two with lipstick, mirror, etc. She has outgrown them. But I still find rogue pieces.
  • Old toy credit card.
  • Four containers of expired Pedialyte. My kids hate this stuff. They won’t drink it fresh, so I can’t expect them to drink it expired!
  • Two more tins of loose tea. (See Day 2’s decluttering.)
  • Vanilla flavored almond milk. I’m the only person in my house who drinks almond milk but since buying this box, I have learned I’m sensitive to vanilla. I’m not going to drink almond milk that might make me have diarrhea, thank you very much.

And Day 4:

  • A very nice humidifier that we inherited from my parents that is just two big for the spots where we use humidifiers.
  • A cache of Nose Frida filters. The Nose Frida is a snot sucker that I had to use when my kids were congested babies. I haven’t used the thing in over a year. Hello, trash!
  • Unused tube of Desitin. Our babysitter has a grandbaby that can use the stuff.
  • Baby nail files. Never used. Oh, the stuff they convince new parents to buy because, oh my god, babies are scary.
  • Three old medicine dispensers for liquid baby painkiller.
  • Pack of sample “tush wipes.” That were hidden amongst snot suckers and butt cream.
  • Two pieces of mystery pink plastic. Absolutely no fucking clue what they were ever used for or where they came from or how they found their way into my home. They were about the size and shape of rings but definitely not rings.
  • Two Hello Kitty hair brushes. Whenever we use these brushes, Pippa cries that they hurt her head. So I hid them amongst butt cream and tush wipes and can now safely move them to the donation zone.
  • A reusable water bottle that we never use.
  • A digital thermometer. I found three digital thermometers still in their packaging. I think our thermometer broke when someone had a fever and I was traumatized that I did not know if my child had a fever of 101.4 or 101.3. So I ordered a bunch, vowing to always have a backup for the backup’s backup. But now we use one of those fancy ear thermometers, so these simple digital thermometers are relics from an age past. I think we can safely live with a backup thermometer and a backup to the backup. But the backup’s backup does not need a backup!

Whew! On deck for tomorrow: The Elastigirl Halloween costume that Pippa convinced me to buy last October but that I actually have zero intention of ever wearing.

Decluttering by Ten: Day Two

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I know that it’s only Day 2, but I just love this project so much. Here is what I decluttered this morning:

  • One bag of unwrapped (and presumably stale) chocolate kisses, leftover from Christmas baking – trash!
  • Reusable stickers from a lost sticker book – trash!
  • Three wooden mallets. I purchased a pack of these mallets off Amazon so that my kids could pound golf tees into pumpkins. But do we need a set of five for two kids? I think not.
  • A wooden box that says “Dan the Sausageman.” It arrived over the holidays, packed with meats and cheeses. Nathan thought I might want to keep it for storage. But damnit, the wood needs to be sanded and I’m just not getting to that anytime soon.
  • Four oversize tweezers for the kids. Again, these came in a large pack but how many pairs do I need for two children? I’m not running a day care! Ever!
  • Some cheap little puzzles I got from the Target dollar bins. I thought they would be good entertainment at restaurants. I learned that puzzles are not good entertainment at restaurants, unless you want your children throwing and retrieving pieces under the booth for the entire meal.
  • A small handful of random broken toys and beads.
  • One broken musical handbell. I love having lots of musical instruments for the kids, but I have discovered that three year olds are not ready for handbells. At least my three year old is not.
  • A set of salt and pepper shakers from our wedding registry. Which I filled with salt and pepper and then proceeded to use approximately never. We have been married nearly eight years. I think its time to end the salt and pepper shaker experiment.
  • One canister of fancy loose tea because every now and then, I think I should be the sort of person who brews a pot of fancy tea. But I’m not. I’m the sort of person who microwaves a mug of water and then plops in a grocery store bag of tea. Goodbye, fancy tea! (And there’s another canister up on a high high shelf in the kitchen that is also destined for the trash. But since this canister got me to ten, I stopped and ate breakfast instead.

Operation: Declutter 10 Things

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I have been feeling overwhelmed by The Amount of Stuff We Have. This has been going on for months and months, but I have procrastinated and procrastinated. I have not yet had a chance to watch Marie Kondo’s show on Netflix but my social media feed is now overflowing with people inspired to take action and declutter their homes. I read Kondo’s book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up years ago and know what I need to do to have a tidier home. Getting rid of things I do not use or need is not exactly rocket science. I just need to do it.

Yet I am overwhelmed.

There are toys, so many toys. And books, so many books. And clothes, so many clothes.

Plus, there are two children running around making more messes that any human being should have to manage. I am trying to teach them to clean up Mess A before making Messes B-Z, but it’s a work in progress. Which I assume will stay in progress until they leave for college. So I am trying to practice some patience and embrace the chaos.

But I’m sick of it.

Today, I finally realized what I should do: I should get rid of ten things every day, for as many days in a row that I can, and record my progress. This seems like a good plan for several reasons:

  • I love projects. They make me happy.
  • I’m feeling stuck and need to build some momentum on the decluttering front. By making this a daily practice, I will get the momentum started.
  • I’m a writer, so I’ll actually have fun recording my efforts.
  • If I get rid of ten things every day, I’ll see some results pretty quickly, without getting overwhelmed. Motherhood keeps me busy, so even though a single kitchen drawer might not seem like a big decluttering project, for me, it actually is.

Once I had the plan in mind, I could not wait to get started. Within five minutes, I had gathered ten items and put them in a large box on the front porch for Goodwill.

  • Item One: A full body toddler rain suit, never used, still in the plastic bag. What the eff was I thinking? We live in Southern California, a climate not exactly known for its rain. Did I really think I was going to wrangle a toddler into a full body rain suit on the few days it actually does rain? Goodbye, rain suit!
  • Item Two: Microphones for the Wii video game system. Still in box. Never used. Deep breath, I forgive myself.
  • Item Three: A big plastic tube used as child-proofing for power cords. It was just sitting on a shelf taking up tons of space. We are done with babies. Into the box!
  • Item Four: Old pair of Birkenstocks that I no longer wear.
  • Item Five: Old pair of tennis shoes that I no longer wear.
  • Item Six: A pair of red platform sandals that I bought for my honeymoon because I thought this was the sort of thing I was supposed to wear on my honeymoon. Except I’m not a platform sandals kind of girl. (See Item Four.)
  • Item Seven: A hardback YA novel that I read, enjoyed, but will never read again.
  • Items Eight, Nine and Ten: Three very thick paperback books that I got from a Little Free Library in my neighborhood. They are a fantasy trilogy. At the time, I honestly thought I was going to read them. That was six months ago and they have been clogging up floor space ever since. Fuck it. I have too many books on deck before I will even consider reading these books. Someone else will enjoy them. If I am meant to read this trilogy, the books will find their way back into my life at some later date.

By the time I was putting the books in the Goodwill box, I was feeling pretty good. I wanted to keep going. But I think the Daily Ten is the right amount for me.

Tomorrow morning, I may actually head into the basement and find a few things that have been tormenting me while the kids are at school…